At the end of the meeting he said to us "I'll have my girl set up another meeting"

And you bet that being labeled a troublemaker if we object to such treatment is effectively used to keep women from being able to win change -- i.e., used by the power structure to maintain the male status quo.

"You're not like them" rings bells for women, too.     It can be communicated in interesting ways.  For example, in one of my professional positions in which -- as with all of them -- I was the only one in management, the men would head off to fundraisers such as golf tournaments, the ones with sweeties handing out prizes on every green.  And the guys never even considered having me go along.  Finally, I raised the issue -- not as a personal issue but as a business concern, since my position was one that logically would be most likely to be included.

A lot of the time, this is phrased in a 'joking' manner so the speaker can disavow it when you get angry - it was just a joke, why are you getting so upset?  And of course, the simple fact that you got angry is somehow proof that you are hysterical, taking things personally, having a hissy fit, etc.

It's impossible that you have a legitimate reason to be angry or that your anger is in proportion.  Many men feel it's their prerogative to decide how much anger you get to feel (none, usually), how you get to express it (you don't), and how long you're allowed to be angry (5 nanoseconds, starting 10 nanoseconds ago).  Other emotions such as sadness or hurt are treated in much the same way, though sometimes there's a little leeway there if he feels contemptuously benevolent.

if you research under gender bias coding (I recently did a research paper on the newspaper coverage of the primary candidates and needed this info) you will see there is some work being done now, a lot of work has been done in Canada also..

In my piece, most often, expressive verbs associated with gender qualities are used , and in my research I found A section NYT reporters like Nagourney name on pieces that used verbs the AP and Reuters Handbook for Journalists specifically says NOT to use to avoid biased reporting...a very clear bias was there and even my pro Obama adviser agreed...

she replied or she said becomes: she attacked, she taunted
the coverage of the debates was particularly striking, with almost no mention of the body language of Obama or Edwards and ongoing play by play descriptions of every physical move by Clinton

she frowned, she scowled, she didnt smile, she smirked, it was unreal frankly.

often terms involving emotionality are used...

It goes further into sexuality as well, since we are on talkleft, here is an interesting piece on "the use of gender loaded identities in sex stereotyping in juris prudence"

I really think he's got tiny flippers and gills that the naked eye can't see. He's amazing.

John McCain in Aspen, "Yes, Phil Gramm is here, but strictly as a friend. Is he still an a**hole? Why yes, yes he is."

"Once in a while it sounds like a raccoon dying," Rosenstiel said.

Anyone know the nitty-gritty details of how the vote is conducted, counted and verified?

-sigh- I just read Obama's enroute back to Chicago. I was just getting used to reading my favorite news website without seeing his name pop up for something he said or did (or didn't do).

I'm also hearing Biden's name pop up more frequently as a running mate--as frequently as Bayh's name.

There is also a ton of blurring of lines between various groups who are protesting either Obama or the DNC.

From my perspective as armchair sociologist/psychologist/anthropologist (it's a big armchair), one of the most interesting things to me is how PUMA has developed into not just a PAC or a political movement, but almost an identity.  The coincidence of the acronym and a real, formidable animal has helped (automatic logo/mascot and ready-made themes).  But when people talk they say "I'm a PUMA" not 'I'm a member of PUMA'.  It's also used as an adjective.  It's closer to when people say 'I'm a Democrat' or 'I'm a Republican' -- you don't hear people say 'I'm an NRA' or 'I'm a MoveOner'.

Well, this comment will almost certainly be deleted, but I thought I'd through that out there.

The superdelegates were put into place to ensure that the strongest candidate would be in place so we wouldn't have another McGovern, Carter in 1980, Mondale, Dukakis, Gore, Kerry.  Two winners in 40 years.  But I digress.